There
are principles for marriage of male and female approved by God from
both the beginning and the fall that have continued. They are
reconfirmed as applicable in successive eras and covenants.
"Study to shew thyself
approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed,
rightly dividing the word of truth" (2 Timothy
2:15).
COVENANTS
God's laws and promises originate
from Him by means of covenants given to men through His prophets.
"Long ago, at many times and in many ways, God spoke to our
fathers by the prophets, but in these last days he has spoken to us
by his Son, whom he appointed the heir of all things, through whom
also he created the world" (Hebrews 1:1-2, ESV2011). Any
of God's laws concerning marriage are given in God's covenants.
When
the Bible in the "Old Testament" speaks of God (deity),
Jesus is included (John 1:1-3; Genesis 1:1, 26; Hebrews 1:1-3) as the
"Word." That means that Jesus as the Word is the
co-author of the Old Testament as well as the New.
God
has made a series of covenants with mankind. All were made according
to His pleasure according to Ephesians 1.
"Having
predestinated us unto the adoption of children by Jesus Christ to
himself, according to the good pleasure of his will"
(Ephesians 1:4,5).
COVENANT BEFORE
THE FALL
Creation.
Marriage is instituted in creation. Man and woman required duty to
marry and bear children. Duration: eternity with tree of life.
God
created man (anthropon, singular in Greek LXX, Genesis
1:27) as male and female at the very beginning. This oneness in
innocence was forever and ever with the tree of life to feed them.
Their rebellion against God's command was sin. Sin separated them
from the tree of life. So "forever" was not to be.
COVENANT AFTER
FALL
Curse
of sin.
Marriage is modified by the curse of sin.
The curse of sin brought
pain upon pain and sweat with a harsh environment. It brought death
and its termination of marriage.The roles of
marriage were defined with the woman being in subjection to the
husband while the husband was a provider from the soil. Woman
was to suffer in childbearing.
No restrictions
on whom to marry. Incest allowed. Cain has to marry his sister.
No mention of divorce. They are to be "one flesh."
Hardness of heart because of sin. "Every intention of
the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually"
(Genesis 6:5b, ESV2011; compare to Hebrews 3:8-19).
COVENANT AFTER
FLOOD (Genesis 9ff)
Post-Deluge.
Marriage is reconfirmed. "Be fruitful, and multiply, and
replenish the earth." They are to be "one flesh." The curse of the ground is removed.
The history recorded by Moses is understood to
be relevant to the Law
given through him. A modification of man's role is that now he may
provide food from meat but not its blood. During this "Patriarchal period",
God
initiates divorce by command although without
bill of divorce. Incest allowed for a while. Hardness of heart is recognized as continuing (Genesis 8:21).
COVENANT WITH
ABRAHAM (Genesis 12)
The
covenant of promise and of circumcision is made with the individual
Abraham that affects the Messianic promise. Abraham is commanded to
put away his second wife Hagar and her offspring because of her
behavior towards his first wife and her son Isaac.
COVENANT THROUGH
MOSES (Deuteronomy 4:13)
Post-Sinai.
This covenant
complements that of Abraham's covenant. Roles are
reconfirmed by Law. Man
reconfirmed as head. Wife is subject to her husband.
Incest is forbidden. Marriage
partner is restricted per "unclean (thing)." In the New
Testament it is called "fornication." Divorce is
conditional but defined as including and requiring, unlike the
Mesopotamians' codes, a Scriptural cause of "unclean thing"
and a written bill of divorcement. Although the male is the one
authorized to terminate legally and Scripturally a marriage, he must
satisfy his role as husband or initiation is passed from him to his
wife if she be neglected by provision of (1) food, (2) shelter,
and/or (3) sexual duty. Initially, under the civil and social
aspects of the Law of Moses, sexual violations are capital crimes and
are not subject to divorce. However, in the Prophets, God extends
divorce to include these crimes by what He is doing and will do to
sinful Israel because of their unfaithfulness. Hence, what were
formerly capital crimes become causes for divorce.
COVENANT WITH
DAVID
This
is an individual covenant made with David that affects the Messianic
lineage. It complements the Covenant of Moses.
Prior to cross. Jesus, in the Sermon on the Mount,
reconfirms the moral teachings of the Law. He reconfirms the
continued "hardness of heart", clarifies and reconfirms the
Mosaic rule for divorce limited to cause with its requirement of a
written bill of divorcement. This opposes the Pharisees' invented
"oral traditions". Later, Jesus reconfirms to the
Pharisees the original purpose of cleaving and "one flesh"
of the married state. Rather than condemning divorce as the modern
day "Pharisees of oral traditions" declare, Jesus rather
attacks anything including Pharisaic teachings that break asunder the
sanctity of the marriage union.
NEW
COVENANT (Jeremiah 31:31-33; Hebrews 8:8-13)
Post-
Cross. With
the establishment of the church, the apostles' doctrine reinforces
the moral teachings of God. The apostle Paul elaborates on marriage
and clarifies its requirements. There is no problem of Paul
contradicting Jesus since Jesus spoke before the cross and Paul
speaks from the Spirit of Jesus, after the cross, when the new
covenant has come into effect.
Moral
obligations from the Law are reconfirmed. Love God by worshipping in
the authorized manners of looking back to the cross and not towards
it as the Old Covenant did. Love your fellowman and
fellow-woman which include the
six commandments is reconfirmed.
Husband
and wife roles are reconfirmed "from the
Law" with the emphasis of God's "cleaving" them and
they are to be " one flesh." Married couples
are to use the Lord and His church as their model. Man is to
love his wife as his flesh and to love her like Christ loves the
church. The wife is to reverence and submit to her husband as the church
does Christ. Jesus and Paul reconfirm the divorce
rule from the Law.
God
is the same today and forever and does not wince or change to suit
man's nature as some would argue.
Conclusion.
Jesus reconfirmed marriage rules and
divorce because of the "hardness of men's heart" (hearts determined to
sin). Jesus and later Paul and Peter in the apostles' doctrine
reconfirmed the six love commandments of the Mosaic Ten. This
included "defraud not" one's mate in marriage roles and
responsibilities.